The same thing happens to me with baby fever. Ha! I know, it may be a totally gross analogy, but it seems fitting. And you know how I like to be honest here on my blog.
Sometimes I think OMG I want a baby sooo bad like NOW! And then other times the thought of having one makes me a little ill.
I don't think I'm the only one? Just like my quarter-life crisis at 25, I think this is something that just comes along with being in your late 20's/early 30's and having an obsessive-about-planning personality. My husband feels the same way, too. And these wishy-washy feelings are one reason we don't have one yet (among other more mature reasons, like bulking up savings, etc).
I thought I would share this little thought with you today, because right now you could say my baby fever is "on again". And when my baby fever is "on again", I like to look at (pin) baby stuff.
This onsie is too funny:
I may have to get it whenever we have a baby and have our mothers come stay with us (hehe, I kid).
This nursery is really cool.. I like the monochromatic color scheme. And it seems like more and more people aren't finding out the sex of their babies, and this could totally work for a boy or a girl:
If I had a baby today, and it was a girl, I'd probably do pink and navy:
I have an aversion against primary colored baby stuff (I know, I will have to someday get over it), so of course I loved this baby play mat tutorial.. you can pick exactly what fabric you want to have strewn all over your house!
My mom is a total francophile, so we were raised on Babar and Madeline. How cute is this:
It'd be adorable in a boy's nursery but the link to the picture source isn't helpful.
I just think gender reveal parties are so fun. I think we'd do that.. except I'd want to find out before the party with my husband alone so we can reflect together instead of in front of a room full of people. But it'd be super fun to do with family and friends!
Anyway, those are some baby things I am liking lately.
Next week I'll probably be thinking about alcoholic drinks and not having to pay $1,000/month on daycare and having the freedom to take last minute vacations.
You are adorable, and the fact that you are planning and preparing so thoughtfully is a sure sign you and your hubby will be awesome parents when you are ready.
ReplyDeleteI totally hear what you're saying! I think every one does it- I know I waiver back and forth constantly! That onesie is priceless, I'm definitely going to have to get one for when my mom visits once I have a baby!
ReplyDeleteA friend once told me that you can never be 100% ready or prepared to have kids. I think you're so ahead of most people thinking about kids and making sure you're ready. The $1K /mo. for daycare exps. is right on! But, when you guys decide the time is right, everything will fall into place b/c it'll be your priority and you'll just make it all work! Thanks for sharing such a thoughtful post!
ReplyDeleteBefore making any decisions, I think you and your husband should come spend some time at the Clark house :)
ReplyDeleteI'm right there with you! I'm nearly 30 and anytime I'm near a cute kid it's like a swift kick to the ovaries :) Then I remember I barely have time to take care of myself and that means I definitely don't have time to take care of a little one yet.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad to know I am not alone in feeling this way. At 25 years old, I JUST finished college and am getting settled into the going-to-work-everyday and homework-free lifestyles. I definitely want to enjoy my free time for a bit. However every time I get to hang out with my adorable 3 year old niece I want one of my own. But then I go back home and enjoy it just being being me and the hubby. Plus it also doesn't help that every time I have good news to share with family members they always think it's a pregnancy announcement. There's a bit of pressure to crank out grandbabies. Sometimes I'm like, "Okay let's do this!" Other times I can step back and be glad I don't have kids yet, because it's basically a lifetime commitment, one I am not quite ready to make yet. So needless to say, I feel ya!
ReplyDeleteOh BABAR!!!!!! I just loved those books! wouldnt it be so great to frame those illustrations in the room?
ReplyDeleteOn the subject of babies, I just listened to the BEST segment on my fave talk radio show on Sirius yesterday. It's called Wake Up with Taylor and she has a doctor come on every week to address stuff and they were talking about biological clocks. how funny! i guess what i got out of it was that a biological clock is a TOTALLY theoretical thing, it has NO bearing on when we are ready or when our bodies are primed for childbearing, because if that was the case, we'd want babies at 13 when we get our periods, since that's the prime age (and our eggs are most fertile). So it has to do with social pressure and psychological ideas ONLY. So I wonder if you are extra fixated on it because you saw somethign that reallly touched you recently, or if you have let yourself think that maybe you are lagging behind in the baby making dept. Whereas other times you are so busy or you havent fixated on it recently? Just an idea. But boy did I have alot to say?
Everyone seems to be trying to comfort you, but I'm afraid I know several couples who "waited until they were emotionally/financially *ready* for kids" and they had massive trouble getting pregnant...some of them never have (and mourn that decision). Age is a real thing and fertility problems only start to mount up every year you get older without having any kids. Next year we will have 3 children under 4 and my husband hasn't had full time work in 8 months. You learn to give things up, sell things, and cut back in order to make things work. I'm not saying it is easy, but life never goes as planned. I believe the biggest thing to consider is how your marriage is doing. Make sure you both believe you will stay married and if the answer is "yes" then go for it. At 1K a month it seems cheaper to stay home with the babies...you could always start a home business. :) I gave up Interior Design in order to stay home with the munchkins and though I miss it, I know it was the right decision for us. I can always go back to it once they are older.
ReplyDeleteMy husband (also named Brynn!) and I are in the exact same place as you and your husband! We're 28 and definitely want a family, but we vascillate between wanting one "like yesterday" and being a couple of years off from it. We would probably have children already if money were no object, but we're trying to be responsible and save up some more money, complete some home renovations, etc. before we take the plunge! I know you never have enough money or are completely ready for a baby, but you can choose to wait until you're MORE prepared, you know? I think our kid will thank us one day for waiting because we can actually send him or her to college! Haha. You'll figure it out and I know we will too! :)
ReplyDeleteI totally understand the feeling! Right now I am constantly swinging between having a baby and taking a year off work to travel the world. Total opposite ends of the spectrum!
ReplyDeleteI feel the same way! Nice to know i'm not the only one:) Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteI'm kind of feeling that way about having #2 - I want my daughter to have close-in-age siblings, but I'm having trouble getting motivated to do the whole thing over again (even though I know it will be worth it a million times over!). Our first baby was a surprise to us, and, in a way I'm glad it happened that way - making the "when" decision is tough! If you're asking for advice (and I'm not sure you were :) ) I'd say that if you're emotionally ready, the rest will fall into place, and what doesn't probably won't seem so important anymore.
ReplyDeleteSuch a big decision, but there is nothing better than having a child! Something you will never regret :)
ReplyDeleteI feel the same way - hot and cold. For practical reasons we're a few years out anyway, but my best friend is pregnant so I'm channeling all that baby fever energy toward buying booties and helping her with her nursery :)
ReplyDeleteYes, very normal feelings! I just had my first (boy!) 3 weeks ago at 32 years. Loving it! I think you will like my sister's nursery (a lot diy'd...including her own take of a Michelle Armas). I don't normally post links on comments, but I am proud of her. :)
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I have felt the same way, but it finally hit me one day that yes I wanted a baby for sure.. then after a year were finally pregnant. But I still don't feel 100% ready, but is anyone ever ready?
ReplyDeleteWe have been thinking about doing a gender cake to, and I love those cupcakes you have up there!
I love the idea of the "reveal" cupcakes! So fun
ReplyDeleteThis is EXACTLY how we feel!! Well said. " I know you never have enough money or are completely ready for a baby,
ReplyDeletebut you can choose to wait until you're MORE prepared, you know? I think our kid will thank us one day for waiting because we can actually send him or her to college! Haha."
I know exactly how you feel! Me and my husband are in the same boat. Those cupcakes are awesome.
ReplyDeleteI feel the EXTACT SAME way. I'm 28...been married for 4 years. I think it's that time.
ReplyDeleteI was the same way as well and 7 months ago (well more like 7+9 months ago) took the plunge into parenthood. And also, I thought it would be $1,000 a month for daycare, but it's more like $1,500 a month. The cost of childcare shocked me! It's really expensive in the RTP area at least.
ReplyDeleteWhat are your thoughts on a girl's room in lavender or violet? My daughter is 2 and adores purple in any form and wants her room to reflect that. I'm terrified! Any thoughts would be appreciated. How the heck do you coordinate with purple???
ReplyDeleteAll I'm saying is I used to have the same thoughts- and I honestly I just couldn't fathom the reality of actually having a "baby"-but stuff happens, and as controlling of my life as I thought I was, I found out I was pregnant (I was 29 then). Turns out to be the best thing that could have happened, because if I waited for the perfect time it would never have happened.
ReplyDelete8 years later we have a 7 and 5 year old that blow our minds daily. I now work from home and made many changes & adjustments (for the better!), but you just roll with it and grow. You will never be ready- you can work forever saving, but you will always want or need more of something. All you really have that is of value is your time. Having these guys has changed my perception of it and made the quality of my time so much deeper. My gosh, I sound like a Hallmark card! I will end it on that.
Good luck girl!
I'm so with you. Somedays I'd tell my husband, okay, let's just start trying now. Then I'd be like, wait, give me until I turn 30. I turned 30 then I said, give me until summer is over. We're babysitting my nephew tonight, so we'll see if we get an itch.
ReplyDeleteDanika. .I totally and completely agree! There is really never a perfect time for kids. And honestly you have more energy when you are younger (which is actually what you need).
ReplyDeleteI had kids relatively young (we decided to get pregnant when I was 23) and I'm so happy I did. I'm 27 now and glad I've got my 2 and don't have to go back to the up all night times. I don't think I could handle it as well now,lol After a couple years of marriage I decided I was ready and my husband agreed. We tried for a month then I decided I wasn't quite ready haha, so we waited a few more months and I decided I was truly ready. We tried for 10 months and that really made me realize how badly I did want it, when month after month if didn't happen. Now I have a boy and a girl and while life has changed considereably I would never want to go back!!! It's a little bit like reliving your own childhood but maybe better. Everything you do is new and exciting because you get to introduce it to your child and see their reaction and experience some of the really simple and wonderful things of life all over again! It's truly an amazing ride! And I agree if you wait for the perfect time, there will never be one, you just have to jump in and it really does work out.
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I weren't ready 4 years ago when we found out we were pregnant with our daughter, but now I can't imagine life without her. Saving for college, getting stuff done around your house, etc. you have the rest of your life to do. Seriously, you've got 18 years to save for college! Putting off having a baby for a year or two isn't going to make or break what kind of education they have. I know so many people that waited and waited and now are limited on how many kids they can have or if they can have any at all because they're older, and by older I mean thirties (which is still pretty young). My husband and I don't even own a house and he's still in grad school but we are having the time of our lives with our daughter because we are young, have the energy and aren't yet committed or tied down to our careers where we have to chose between time with our kids and our jobs. Plus, she doesn't know (or care) how much money we have or what our house looks like. And honestly, having kids is going to completely change the way you see home decoration anyway, everything will change!
ReplyDeleteAll I'm saying is that there will always be a reason to wait, but once you do it, you won't ever regret it. Do you think if you got pregnant tomorrow that in five years you'd say, "man, I wish I wouldn't have had this kid." I'm guessing not, if anything you'll be happy you didn't wait!
I think the roller coaster of feeling ready and then not ready for a baby is totally normal. Although, I think my particular roller coaster with feeling ready or not ready for a baby is entirely related to wanting to dress a baby up and decorate a nursery and very little to do with actually caring for a baby. So for us, we are in the still waiting to feel a little more ready phase. At least until I see a baby in a Halloween costume... then I am done for.
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